Letting toxic people go is not an act of cruelty. It’s an act of self-care.
Do you know what the worst kind of friendship is?
The ambivalent friend.
What is ambivalence?
It means having mixed feelings about something.
Who are ambivalent friends ?
They are the friends who you have mixed feelings about. You don’t know where you stand with them. You have no idea whether you like their company or not.
They ask you questions that could only be thought of as dream-killing and tend to ruin a happy moment. They are the kind of people that creep into your life and stay there, draining your mental energies.
The more you spend time with them, the more you feel drained. They make you feel insecure about yourself, and have you constantly doubting their true intentions.
Ambivalent friends are more dangerous than toxic people because they are not easy to identify.
How to identify ambivalent friends
Ask yourself these questions:
Are they really happy for you? Do they make passive-aggressive comments? Are they always negative? Do you go to them with exciting news,and rather than encourage you they shut you down entirely?
These question are not specific, but more like a template for you to use so as to figure what or rather who in the background doesn’t genuinely fit.